Catching up with a friend and client in the UK recently, she let me know that she’d recently added a third boyfriend to her life. “Quite easily!” she replied.
One of the things I talk about so much in my classes and writing is to encourage people to look at what they really would like in a relationship, not what the movies, media, and society tell them they SHOULD want (the whole happily ever after, white picket fence scene). This woman is living it. I love it! And it’s working for her, even better.
“I’ve learned not to take relationship very seriously,” she observed. She’s enjoying her different dates “as people, and not seeing them as potential husbands all the time.” This illustrates so perfectly several of the 6 Do’s and 6 Don’ts to Create a Relationship that is Easy and Fun. Live in the present–so many woman area always auditioning men for their marriage potential, while not living in the present and enjoying them for who they are. David and I also so strongly recommend NOT going to fast forward–who cares “where this relationship is going”? The best predictor of its being fun is if it’s fun now.
“I might come do your relationship class next time you’re in town,” she added. I would love to see her–and she needs it less than many people I speak to. And some of them wouldn’t consider it. What does that tell you?
Yeas? Nays? what do you think? I’d love to hear your questions and comments. And of course, more is available on this topic and other facets of successful relationships at courses above.